Backstabber: A Real-life Letter from a Wife to a Mistress

To my husband’s “other”:

I can’t even finish that greeting and call you a woman, because that’s a title for women who have respect for other women. It’s fitting to leave you as just the “other” because that’s what you were and what you’ll always be…the “other.” No man will ever make you his number one because you lack the self-respect men look for in real women.

I am BEYOND disgusted with this entire situation Kellie! I can only go so far as to use your first name, but I hope how you spell your name will be a dead give away to your identity. Every woman out there needs to know that you can’t be trusted as a friend, or around anyone’s man. I over-looked your history of being a slut because you convinced me you grew up. You said you weren’t the same girl looking for attention from men because of things you went through as a little girl. I bought your sob story. That’s what makes this worse for me. I gave you a chance. I let you in. Part of me feels like some of this is on me. How stupid was I to let a girl like you around my family? I’m having a hard time dealing with my anger towards you and my guilt for bringing you around. I think I should forgive my husband because I knew your reputation and yet I put you right in his face! I know he’s wrong and I’m dealing with him. This author said the focus of these letters is the women and trying to fix what’s wrong between us. Well clearly the problem between us is girls like you! Girls with no shame. Girls who don’t believe in God and girls who have nothing in life to lose. You want all women to be as miserable as you are. Unfortunately, you are very good at causing misery everywhere you go.

You’ve managed to make me hate myself when all I did was be your friend. I let you hold my kids and eat my food. I defended you to my other friends who warned me you would do exactly what you did! My friends distanced themselves from me because they could see something I couldn’t. They could see that you’re a two-faced bit** whore with no morals and no regret over the hurt you bring to anyone naïve enough to let you in! You made it so I’ll never trust another woman ever again! That’s the sad part. Most of us are trustworthy and wouldn’t dream of destroying another woman’s family. Real women don’t make plans to hurt little children by tearing their family apart. What’s wrong with you? What’s your real damage? I was your only friend and you do this? I wish I could hurt you just a fraction of the way you’ve hurt me because it would destroy you. You’ve brought tears to my kids, my mother, and my mother-in-law. I will never forgive you because you hurt so many others besides me. People who didn’t deserve it. I didn’t deserve it. Maybe I did. Maybe I got exactly what I deserved for not listening to everyone (and it was literally everyone) around me who said to keep you far, far away.

It may be too late for you to grow a heart. I can only hope that you find a man you love one day only to have some nasty witch come in and take him out from under you! You deserve all the heartache that will come. It’s the only way people like you ever know what you’ve done to others. I wish I could be bigger than to wish bad on you, but right now I can’t. You deserve whatever bad comes your way because you leave a path of destruction everywhere you go just because you can.

When you see me, look the other way and I’ll do the same. Do us all a favor and just stay to yourself like you were before I stupidly befriended you. You don’t belong with the rest of the human race until you grow a conscience and a heart. I’m so angry, but I’ll admit a lot of the anger is covering my hurt. I hate admitting that you’ve hurt me, but you have. You hurt many women in your life and I’m sure I won’t be the last.

I’m writing this letter to you Kellie, but it’s a letter for all you “women” who read it and think it’s ok to hurt other women this way. It’s not ok, and shame on all of you who think it is.


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