To Ms. “No Self Respect”

I resisted and resisted the urge to answer this writer’s letter submission, but now that I have given in, I really hope it makes the cut because I do think it’s important for women like you to know what an utter disappointment you are to women like me; women like me who think us ladies should have each other’s backs.  It’s not enough to say that you disrespected me, you also disrespected God and the sanctity of marriage itself.  And yes, I know you and all women who do what you do will come back with the fact that it’s my husband who disrespected our marriage, yes that’s true, but SO DID YOU!  You don’t get a pass just because you didn’t take the vows.  You are a woman, and I am sure you have been party to the absolute heartbreaking feeling of being cheated on.  So how do you justify doing it to other women?  How do you look at yourself in the mirror and feel proud to be a woman that has no respect for other women?  Why do you hate us, which begs the question, why do you hate yourself?  Being a woman is so much more than having breasts, and a vagina that will take in any d*** that wants to be in it.  Being a woman means having a sense of loyalty and respect for others, especially women, even if you don’t know them.  Being a woman means having the ability to feel another woman’s pain.

You caused me so much pain, and I hate you for it.  I hate that you thought it was okay to engage in adultery with my husband, with my children’s father, and…

To read the rest of this wife’s letter, look for it in the upcoming publication of, “Woman to Woman: Letters from Wives to Mistresses.”

How many of you understand where this wife is coming from? How many of you find yourselves feeling that her anger is misdirected? I, for one, completely understand her point of view. Once the utter disgust I felt for my then husband cleared, I couldn’t help but feel total disdain for the woman who took part in the betrayal. Make no mistake ladies, it IS a betrayal. It is a betrayal of our bond as women. It is a betrayal of the very nature of what it is to be a woman. It is a betrayal of our sisterhood; it is a break of the “Girl Code,” that says you don’t sleep with another woman’s man…especially another woman’s husband.

We stand together for each other for just about any cause there is under the sun, but when it comes to a man we want, all of that loyalty and respect flies out the window. The woman who slept with, got pregnant by, and eventually married my ex, hurt me far more than he did. That may not make much, if any, sense to most of you, but once you read “Woman to Woman,” I promise that you will completely understand why. I will tell you that she was consciously mindful of what she was doing to me. Her plan of pain was purposeful. Her betrayal of me as a woman, of the sisterhood, was without regard, and ultimately without remorse.

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