{"id":736,"date":"2021-01-29T09:00:00","date_gmt":"2021-01-29T09:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/?p=736"},"modified":"2021-01-29T09:00:00","modified_gmt":"2021-01-29T09:00:00","slug":"a-perfect-example-of-girl-code-broken","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/?p=736","title":{"rendered":"A Perfect Example of Girl Code…Broken"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Welcome back my loyal readers! 2020 was quite a year, to say the least. In the midst of the global pandemic, political tensions and economic crises, we as individuals have seen those strains reflected in our relationships and families. Because of this, we must keep working on our personal relationships alongside the big picture world issues. To usher in 2021, I would like to take a brief look at one of the main concepts explored in my upcoming memoir, Woman to Woman:<\/em> Letters from Wives to Mistresses<\/em>\u2026Girl Code.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Girl Code can be defined in many ways, but essentially it\u2019s about respecting our fellow women and never going out of our way to hurt one another without cause \u2013 and even if you feel you have cause, I say, be the bigger woman. Womankind has accomplished so much, so why are we still so against each other in social and familial circles? We owe it to ourselves to protect and support each other. When you are your sister\u2019s keeper, you help protect the next generation of women from unnecessary pain, just as you<\/em> would want to be protected. We as a sisterhood can help build each other up if we adhere to Girl Code.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Girl Code is usually used to encourage women to respect each other\u2019s spouses and romantic partners so as not to participate in cheating and infidelity. However, it can also be used in ways that keep women from tearing each other down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now, one way to show a total lack of respect for Girl Code would be spreading malicious rumors about another woman, especially when it comes to matters that don\u2019t concern you in the first place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Recently, news broke that celebrity couple Kim Kardashian West and Kanye West<\/a> have separated and started divorce proceedings. Amidst the many details circulating about the divorce, TikToker Ava Louise (@realavalouiise on TikTok<\/a>) made headlines by spreading a rumor that the divorce had been incited by Kanye having an affair with a makeup mogul and major influencer. She made a TikTok video saying that Kanye had been sleeping with an unnamed famous male beauty guru, and she later liked several comments that speculated it was Jeffree Star.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ava is an influencer who rose to fame after a 2019 appearance on Dr. Phil. She is known for her infamous Coronavirus challenge on TikTok where she began a \u201ctrend\u201d by licking a toilet seat on an airplane. She is also known for her single \u201cSkinny Legend Anthem\u201d and she boasts thousands of followers on Instagram and TikTok.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The kicker is that she made the whole thing up. No proof, no real justification. She later admitted to creating the rumor<\/a> just to get people talking about her. This is the kind of behavior that doesn\u2019t just fly in the face of Girl Code, but kicks it and stomps it into the ground, and makes a mockery of women everywhere. Think how self-centered and heartless one needs to be to create a rumor that will unjustly hurt people who you don\u2019t even know, and don\u2019t know you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Speaking from experience, I can only imagine that Kim and Kanye are already going through enough pain amidst a public divorce, and stunts like these only add to it. Ava didn\u2019t even spare a thought for the West children who will take an unfair blow through all these false allegations. It honestly takes nothing to spare a thought for your fellow woman, to not tear down their dignity to promote a wholly self-serving agenda. Is tearing down a stranger\u2019s family worth fifteen minutes of social media fame? Let us remember that the celebrities on the news are real people; they have real families and real pain, and as famous as she may be, Kim Kardashian West is a part of our sisterhood.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Another great example happened back in November 2020. Can any of my sisters tell me HOW on God\u2019s green earth, spreading gossip about another woman\u2019s sexual prowess and abilities in the bedroom, is anyone else\u2019s business outside of said woman and her partner? It\u2019s no wonder women are often seen as catty and bitchy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During their \u201cFox Soul\u2019s \u2018Cocktail with Queens\u2019\u201d in November last year, actress LisaRaye McCoy floated a rumor<\/a> that \u201cshe heard\u201d from someone else, that fellow actress Ms. Halle Berry, is not good in bed. Even if that were true (anytime someone says \u201cI heard\u201d I\u2019m immediately skeptical), why further spread such an unkind piece of unsubstantiated news? What makes us continue to treat each other with disrespect that we ourselves would be ready to fight about if the rumors were flipped around on us?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I admit to being pleasantly surprised that Halle responded to the rumor by simply stating in a tweet, \u201cask my man\u2026he\u2019ll tell ya all y\u2019all need ta know.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What is it that makes women want to demean and bring down other women? Is it the long history of living under the rule of patriarchal societies? Could be. I mean, we had to (and still have to) fight to get out from under the thumb of the literal \u201cman.\u201d In that fight, when we do break free, all we know how to do is fight and it appears that fighting spirit has no boundaries. The fight we undertake together as women to release the shackles of our male-dominated world, don\u2019t make us any more sensitive to our sisters who fought alongside us. We\u2019re still in fight mode and most of the time those fights are against each other\u2026not the men.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Girl Code is not just about dating your best friends ex-man. Girl Code is about loyalty to our sisterhood and respect for one another be it in private spaces, or the most public of them. The sister you do wrong today could be the same sister you\u2019ll need when the world is coming down on you. Whether you know a woman personally or not, we all experience the pressures and joys of womanhood, and in that way we are sisters. A community that has each other\u2019s backs is far stronger than one that doesn\u2019t give a second thought about tearing each other down. Be your sister\u2019s keeper. You would be surprised how much you can achieve simply by empathizing with and respecting a woman who could be in your shoes the very next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thank you all for stopping by today. More intriguing posts to come.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

LeTisha Jackson is the author of the upcoming memoir \u201cWoman to Woman: Letters from Wives to Mistresses.\u201d Looking to a spring 2021 release, the ARC of her memoir has garnered rave reviews in its pre-release. Most recently, Ms. Mimi Faust of \u201cLove and Hip Hop Atlanta\u201d fame said her book is \u201ccompelling and hard to put down.\u201d Read excerpts here: https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/2019\/11\/10\/book-excerpt-from-woman-to-woman\/<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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