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My interview with Jayla ended last week where I asked Jayla what happened between her and her husband after she got off the phone with his mistress. We’ll pick it up from there. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Enjoy the conclusion of “Interview w\/a Betrayed Wife: Homewrecker Hypocrisy.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n
LeTisha: Thank you Jayla. It\u2019s hard being patient. I hoped to put it out this summer, but the virus resurged. Now it\u2019s looking like it won\u2019t be till next year, but I\u2019m okay with that. I\u2019ll just keep working on it, and growing my audience so it can have a successful release. Thank you for the encouragement. But, back to you girl. How did things go down with your husband after that phone call?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jayla: LeTisha, it was\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n (she pauses for about 7 seconds, and her voice is cracking when she begins talking)<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: It was\u2026it was awful. That\u2019s all I can say.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> Are you okay?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: No. No, I\u2019m not.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> Do you want to end here, or finish up another day?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: Nope. I contacted you. I want to tell the whole story.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> Okay, but if you change your mind, it\u2019s no problem to finish later.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: Okay.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> So, how did you confront your husband with what you had just found out?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: I did something I shouldn\u2019t have.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> Oh lord.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: As soon as he came through the front door, I\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: I socked his ass!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> Yikes!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: Yeah yikes. I\u2019ve never put my hands on anyone. I can honestly say it wasn\u2019t a plan. I don\u2019t know. He walked in like life was normal. I saw red because my life was just torn apart.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> Did he hit you back?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: No. I think he was too shocked to react.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> I bet. Were you thinking anything in the moments he was in shock?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: I remember thinking, well asking myself, what I was going to do if he rose up and hit me back.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> Yeah, that\u2019s a reasonable thought. Do you remember how long the moment lasted from the hit to when he finally said or did something?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: It seemed like forever, but honestly it was probably only a few seconds. He just looked at me and I remember like flaming hot tears just started running down my face. He just looked at me. Didn\u2019t ask me what was wrong or was I okay.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> Because he knew you knew right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: Yep. He walked over to the table and sat down with his head in his hands. I just stood there looking at him, waiting for him to say something\u2026say anything.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> Had you even given thought to what it was you wanted to hear from him?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: That\u2019s a good question. No, not really. I mean, what could he say? Lie about it? That would only make me madder. He KNOWS how much I hate liars.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> So, did you go sit at the table?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: Nope. I just kept standing there looking at him.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> I bet he could feel you burning a hole in his head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: I was too girl. I remember having a quick thought that hopefully his head would blow up from my staring at it.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n (we both laugh)<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: He finally looked up at me with big crocodile tears in his eyes and said he was sorry. I asked him what exactly he was sorry for. He said \u201cyou know, do I have to say it?\u201d I said, you didn\u2019t mind DOING it, so why is it hard for you to say it? He said \u201cyeah, you right, I fuc*** up.\u201d I said, you did more than that. He said \u201cwhat you mean?\u201d I said, you losing your whole family over some bit**! He said, \u201cyou don\u2019t even wanna try to work it out?\u201d I said, work out what? You\u2019re the one who needs to work something out \u2018cause we\u2019re over. He had the nerve to ask me if 22 years was worth letting go for one mistake.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> There it is! That overly misused word \u201cmistake.\u201d How the word mistake got so misappropriated when it comes to cheating I\u2019ll never understand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: Right? I thought I was the only one who thought that.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> Nope. Everything that leads up to actually having sex with another person that\u2019s not your spouse, the flirtation, the secret calls and texts, the secret plans to meet up to have sex\u2026those are all conscious and intentional things you do which proves it\u2019s not a “mistake.” A poor decision, bad judgment sure, but it\u2019s doesn\u2019t even come close to being a mistake. I think they think calling it a mistake somehow lessens the effect of what they did. Well it doesn\u2019t. Calling it a mistake is an insult and to me it\u2019s them trying to shirk some of the responsibility.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: Exactly! Like calling it a mistake will make us say \u201coh ok, it was just an accident that you fuc*** another woman, ok, I forgive you then since it was just an accident.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> Yep. So, what was your reply?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: I told him that HE was the one who risked the 22 years, not me. I asked him how it was a mistake. I asked him if he tripped and fell in her coochy.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> Right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n (I chuckle lightly)<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: He actually told me I was right, that it wasn\u2019t a mistake.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> Wasn\u2019t expecting that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: Me neither but it didn\u2019t change anything. I asked him was his fianc\u00e9e worth losing all of us over and he said \u201cno.\u201d I said she must have had something he was holding on to \u2018cause he was with her for 10 whole months. He said, \u201cwait a minute, how you know that?\u201d I told him I hadn\u2019t too long gotten off the phone with his fianc\u00e9e.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> Whoa! What did he say about that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: He looked surprised. He said \u201cshe called to tell you that?\u201d I said yep and that she told me about him being a runaway groom; calling off the wedding over a made-up argument. Girl he just looked like he got gut punched for real.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> Mmm hmm\u2026because he knew you had some facts so he wouldn\u2019t be able to lie his way out of it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: I think he was surprised his little mistress had enough guts to call me cause he said he didn\u2019t think she had it in her. He said he didn\u2019t even know how she got my number, but that she had threatened him that she would call and tell me what he was doing if he tried to leave.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> Oh my God that is SO weak! My ex tried to tell me the same thing about his mistress. That she was threatening him with different things that she would do and tell me if he tried to come back to me. That made me lose something for him because he was, you know, so street tough but was supposedly allowing some girl to basically blackmail him into staying with her. Like, where are your balls? And how are you even attracted to a woman that\u2019s supposedly blackmailing you? That is so weak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: Yes it\u2019s weak as hell. I told him he didn\u2019t have to be threatened anymore \u2018cause she could have him.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> Did you mean it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: I meant it in that moment.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> I understand that. We really do mean it when our emotions are raw and the news is fresh in our minds.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: Yeah.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> So where are you now? I mean, did you put him out?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: I did.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> Wow. So, dare I ask\u2026did he move in with her?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: I think so, but he said he\u2019s staying with a friend of his. His friend did tell me he\u2019s been there but I don\u2019t trust none of\u2019em, so, yeah<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> Do you really want to end your marriage at this point?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: I don\u2019t know. I go back and forth all the time. One minute I feel empowered for kicking his ass out, but the next minute I\u2019m crying \u2018cause I miss him so much and I just want to tell him to come home and work through it with him.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> What stops you from doing that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: Fear. I\u2019m so scared that\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n (she starts crying\u2026I give her time)<\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> I know you\u2019re not okay so I\u2019ll just ask if you want to stop. We\u2019re almost done anyway.<\/p>\n\n\n\n (she is sobbing at this point and my eyes start to fill up with tears; I can feel her pain)<\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> I can really feel your pain Jayla. I\u2019m so sorry you\u2019re going through this, that your kids are going through this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: Thank you. That fear that he could do this to me again is so heavy on my heart and mind, and I just don\u2019t think, no, I KNOW I wouldn\u2019t be able to handle it another time.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> I and many wives know exactly what you\u2019re talking about with that fear. It’s paralyzing. And speaking of other women\u2026what are your feelings about women who get involved with our husbands?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: I used to think that married men were solely at fault if they cheated, but now that I\u2019m dealing with it, I see exactly why you wrote your book. I said it before and I\u2019ll say it again, I agree with you, it IS a betrayal of our sisterhood. It\u2019s a slap in the face to women when our sisters have no problem inflicting this kind of pain on another woman. I just don\u2019t understand it. That would be like you going out and sleeping with another woman\u2019s husband now while KNOWING the pain you had put on you by your husband\u2019s mistress! It\u2019s just, I mean betrayal is the perfect word for it. She betrayed her womanhood. She betrayed her morals. She betrayed me and my kids. She\u2019s a woman. How could she take part in hurting me so bad? You know, like, what did I do to her?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> And there it is, a question I ask in my book\u2026\u201dwhat did I ever do to you to make you want to hurt me in the worse way possible?\u201d Women who get involved with married men know what they\u2019re contributing to and yet, the problem is getting worse. No matter how far we advance as a gender, the betrayals we put on each other are the ones that mean so much, because they’re betrayals that contribute to the demise and devastation of entire family’s. Do you have anything else you\u2019d like to add or say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: Umm, just that I hate that it took for me to have this happen to me to see your point of view.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> I don\u2019t like to tell people how they should feel, but please don\u2019t beat yourself up over that, or even let that occupy space in your mind. You have enough to process. All that matters is you working through this time for yourself and your kids. I do appreciate it though, that you understand where I, and so many other wives, are coming from. We have GOT to do better by each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: Yes we do.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> Well Ms. Jayla, I can\u2019t thank you enough for agreeing to do this interview for us, and for being so open. Whatever you decide to do about your marriage is your business. Don\u2019t let anyone tell you what you should do about YOUR marriage. I\u2019m here for you if you need a listening ear.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: Thank you LeTisha, I believe that. Thank you for this. It actually does help to talk about it with a woman who’s been through it. Don\u2019t forget to tell me when and where I can buy your book when it comes out.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> I will, and I thank you for your support Jayla. I hope your heart heals from moment to moment, and I hope your babies get through this as well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: Thank you.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> You\u2019re welcome. You go and try to have a peaceful day sis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jayla: Ok, I will. Bye.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n LeTisha:<\/strong> Bye-bye for now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Unfortunately far too many of you know exactly how Jayla is feeling. I send you thoughts of comfort as well. If you’d like to share your story in an interview, please contact me through this site. It can be completely confidential.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I’m working on getting interviews with women who are in prison for assaulting, and even murdering other women over a man. In the meantime, I will keep providing heartfelt content for you to enjoy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Thank you for your continued support. I hope each of you and your loved ones are safe and well during these trying times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Please subscribe while you’re here. You don’t want to miss what’s coming up!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Wow! So many of you enjoyed my interview with Jayla. I thank all of you for engaging by visiting this site to read that interview and others. Please be sure to subscribe while you’re here today so you don’t miss the other great things I’m working on just for you. 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