{"id":613,"date":"2020-01-27T22:30:51","date_gmt":"2020-01-27T22:30:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/?p=611"},"modified":"2020-01-27T22:30:51","modified_gmt":"2020-01-27T22:30:51","slug":"a-man-who-gets-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/?p=613","title":{"rendered":"A Man Who Gets It"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Sorry for the delay my wonderful readers! Your girl was really put through the ringer over the last couple of weeks, from fracturing my toe to a terrible bout of bronchitis all at the same time. I\u2019m on the mend from the bronchitis, and am all splinted (and medicated) up for my fracture.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had a bunch of emails to wade through, and was pleasantly surprised to come across a letter from a guy who not only sees things from my perspective, but appreciates what I\u2019m trying to accomplish with my blog and upcoming book \u201cWoman to Woman: Letters from Wives to Mistresses<\/a>.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I wrote back to him to get his permission to publish his letter, and he was happy to allow it. So, following is his letter to me, and below that is my response back. Please feel free to comment about his letter, my response or any of the posts here on my site. All respectful feedback and comments are welcome here. Enjoy this week\u2019s post I\u2019ve simply titled, \u201cA Man Who Gets It\u201d:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ms. LeTisha:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This might be a little odd getting a letter from a dude who is writing you in response to a book you have coming out that is clearly meant for you ladies. But I came across one of the interviews you did with a cheating husband<\/a> on my FB feed and after reading it (it was really good by the way), I read a few of the letters on your blog that are from the wives and mistresses, and all I can say is kudos!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not sure if my opinion will mean anything to you, probably not, but I wanted to say I think what you\u2019re saying is brave and spot on. It\u2019s about time a female spoke the truth about the dynamics of adulterous relationships. I mean it really does seem to be a deep-seated problem within your community, and not so much about the men who cheat. Don\u2019t kill me. Like you, I\u2019m not at all saying that the cheaters get a free pass, I\u2019m just saying that if women would stop faking their \u201cwe support each other in everything” relationships and really started to fix the underlying issues you clearly have with one another, the problem of adultery would just about be done away with. You\u2019ve pretty much cracked the problem with what you\u2019re putting out there. If every woman said no to every married man who hit on them, those men would have no women to cheat with, so it really does seem to me that the bigger problem is the messed up dynamic between women. I\u2019m just glad that a woman is having the guts to say it out loud. I\u2019m sure you\u2019re getting some angry feedback from your \u201csisters\u201d who think you\u2019re making excuses for us, but know that I get it and I actually do think your book is going to help do some healing among women. Hey, at the very least you\u2019ll finally get a real conversation going on what the real problem is. And as a man I kind of just want to say thank you. Yes for taking some of the heat off of us, but more because you\u2019re not afraid to tell the truth even in the face of the criticism you are certain to get in this feminist-heavy era. I also want to apologize to you on behalf of men for what you may have gone through when your loser husband hurt you. He clearly didn\u2019t appreciate what he had.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I wish you the best of luck with your book. Please let me know when it comes out because I will certainly buy it. I\u2019ll probably keep it out on my living room table so that when my female friends come over complaining about their cheating boyfriends, they\u2019ll see your book on my table, want to read it and finally get off their mans backs (cause the men aren\u2019t going to change), and get to the heart of the matter and go converse with the woman he\u2019s cheating with. Change the female dynamic on this topic and you\u2019ll help fix the real problem<\/em>, so don’t stop what you’re doing no matter what anyone says.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Good luck LeTisha!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Signed,<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A Guy Who Agrees With You<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

My reply:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dear \u201cGuy Who Agrees With Me\u201d:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First, thank you so much for taking the time to write to me and express your gratitude for what I\u2019m striving to accomplish. You don\u2019t have to worry, I\u2019m not going to lambast you for your opinion, lol! Even for those who don\u2019t agree with me, I still have the utmost respect for their input; and yes, you could not be more correct about the biting criticism I\u2019m receiving for my stance on this sensitive topic. Those who come for me, and it is ALL women, only make my point for me\u2026that this \u201cwe run the world\u201d and have each other\u2019s backs act, is not altogether true, and that we women still have work to do when it comes to how we relate to, see, and treat one another. No matter how many times I say that I\u2019m not giving the men an out or excusing them from their culpability in an adulterous affair, all some women seem to see is that I\u2019m attacking and blaming women for the cheater\u2019s actions. To me, many of them are women who accept no responsibility for their own actions and don\u2019t want to feel the remorse they should have for being part of tearing another woman\u2019s life apart. I am, however, very excited about what\u2019s being said on both sides of the conversation because my book and my blog are already doing EXACTLY what I want them to do, and that\u2019s start a REAL conversation that is going to take much longer than a 1-hour talk show to dissect, heal and put back together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thank you for expressing your thoughts, and even more, thank you for having the courage to write to me and thank you for allowing me to share your letter with my readers. I also appreciate your sympathy for me and what I endured when I was faced with betrayal in my own marriage; and you\u2019re absolutely right, my ex did not appreciate the great wife he had in me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I hope you\u2019re a man who finds satisfaction in being faithful, or at the very least, avoids being in \u201ccommitted\u201d relationships if you are not truly ready to be monogamous. Don\u2019t break hearts\u2026we only have the one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thanks again for weighing in, and be sure to tell your circle of male friends about my blog and upcoming book. Tell them they are free to contact me and lend their voices to the conversation as well. I am always interested in trying to get inside the head and heart of men whether they\u2019re heartbreaking Casanova\u2019s or faithful to their chosen love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

With Respect & Gratitude,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

LeTisha<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Sorry for the delay my wonderful readers! Your girl was really put through the ringer over the last couple of weeks, from fracturing my toe to a terrible bout of bronchitis all at the same time. I\u2019m on the mend from the bronchitis, and am all splinted (and medicated) up for my fracture. I had […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":615,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[19,23,42,48,52,70,81,86,96,98,101,117,131,167,171],"class_list":["post-613","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-blog","tag-books","tag-divorce","tag-family","tag-feedback","tag-gratitude","tag-illness","tag-interviews","tag-marriage","tag-media","tag-men","tag-pain","tag-relationships","tag-women","tag-writer"],"featured_image_src":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/guywhoagrees-1-600x400.jpg","featured_image_src_square":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/guywhoagrees-1-600x565.jpg","author_info":{"display_name":"LeTisha Jackson","author_link":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/?author=3"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/613","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=613"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/613\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/615"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=613"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=613"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=613"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}