{"id":373,"date":"2019-06-16T19:10:24","date_gmt":"2019-06-16T19:10:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/?p=373"},"modified":"2019-06-16T19:10:24","modified_gmt":"2019-06-16T19:10:24","slug":"book-excerpts-from-woman-to-woman-letters-from-wives-to-mistresses","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/?p=373","title":{"rendered":"Book Excerpts from \u201cWoman to Woman: Letters from Wives to Mistresses\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u201cHaving been\ncategorized as having a very high-risk pregnancy, I had to visit my Doctor very\noften.  In my previous pregnancies, I had\nnever carried any of the babies long enough to even see their heartbeat.  This pregnancy though seemed to be the\none.  I felt healthy physically, but I\nwas cognizant of the fact that I had to stop crying, and being so upset over\nthe way my husband was treating me.  Despite\nhis many promises to do so, he had still not returned home.  I did not want to do anything that might\ntrigger another miscarriage.  I would let\nmy husband know when I had an appointment with the hope that he would accompany\nme.  He never made it to one\nappointment.  I was crushed all over\nagain knowing that not even carrying his baby was enough to get him to do the\nright thing.  I was still crying myself\nto sleep every night that he was not next to me\u2026next to us.  I wanted him to put his hand on my little\nbelly, and tell us he loved us, and would never leave us again.  I needed him to tell me that he was sorry for\nall he had put me through.  I needed him\nto tell me he was overjoyed that we were finally going to have our baby, but unfortunately\nnone of that happened.  All he would tell\nme was that he was coming back, he just needed to figure out how, and when to\ndo it.  I told him to do to her what he\ndid to me, just pack your stuff and leave. \nHis feelings for his mistress were clear to me finally, and with a heavy\nheart I realized I was going to be a single mother.  I never, ever wanted that for myself.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The only moments of\njoy I felt over the weeks were when I would go to my Doctor, and he would tell\nme that everything in my pregnancy was going as it should.  I will never forget the ultrasound where, for\nthe very first time, I saw my baby\u2019s heartbeat flickering on the screen like a\nlittle twinkling star.  I left that\nappointment with a renewed inner strength. \nI knew my baby needed me to be positive so that he or she could thrive\ninside of me.  Unfortunately, it was not\nmeant to be.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

That night I would\nfeel the familiar sensation of a pop, and then the expulsion of blood down my\nthighs.  I remember immediately breaking\nout in hysterical tears begging God to not let this be happening again.  As I sat up, I remember telling Him that my\nbaby was all I had, and to please not allow it to be taken away from me.  Upon reaching the bathroom, seeing the blood\npouring out of me, I sat down on the toilet, and as I cleaned myself, I saw\nwhat appeared to be a tiny placenta and what appeared to be the shape of a tiny\nfetus on the tissue.  I touched it, and\njust stared at it through blurry teary filled eyes, and just kept saying \u201cno,\nno, no, no, no, please God, no.\u201d  I\nrushed myself to the ER where I would hear the word\u2019s I had heard far too many\ntimes before, \u201cI am sorry, but your pregnancy\u2026\u201d and I just lost it.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is only a part of the personal hell I was enduring\u2026alone.  While my husband and his mistress were in the\nhoneymoon phase of their relationship, neither of them took stock of the reality\nthat my life was falling apart more each day. \nIt would only be a few months after this devastating loss that I would\ncome to find out that his mistress had allowed herself to get pregnant by my\nhusband.  Even today there are no words\nto describe how I felt finding out that the one thing I had fought so hard for,\nfor so many years, was being given to her, and out of the midst of a sinful\naffair no less.  That is one of the\ngravest injustices I had, and still contend with to this very day.  My husband broke our vows.  My husband broke my trust.  My husband broke our marriage.  However, his mistress is the one who broke my\nheart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way that women treat one another after how far we\u2019ve\ncome as a gender is just mind-boggling to me. \n\u201cWoman to Woman\u201d addresses the breakdown of our sisterhood.  It gets deeper into how at a time when we\ncould literally be running the world, there seems to always be present an\nunderlying hatred for one another that stems from competition, and more to the\npoint of the book\u2026competition for men.  We\nwill stand together for almost anything to do with the uplifting of our gender,\nbut when it comes to a man we want, even a married man, we lose all\nperspective, rationale, and compassion.  So,\nsharing my story in the book was important because the women who justify\ngetting involved with another woman\u2019s husband, need to know what the truth is\nbehind their lies.  My book gives them a harrowing\nlook at what a husband is doing to his wife, while hoping she sees that she is complicit\nin helping him do it.  In my case, the \u201cother\nwoman\u201d actually encouraged some of my ex\u2019s disrespectful actions.  Women helping to destroy women is not the boss\nmove.  I choose to believe that we are\nbetter than that; and if sharing my story opens the eyes of women everywhere to\nthe reality of how badly women treat each other, then at least all of my pain\nwill not have been for naught. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A few of you have asked why I am hyper-focused on\nwomen, and don\u2019t seem to be addressing and pointing out the husband\u2019s\nculpability in adulterous affairs.  The answer\nis not complicated.  My book is called \u201cWoman\nto Woman\u201d for a reason.  Like I told a\nfriend not too long ago, we have talked to the men about what their infidelity\ndoes to us; we have talked to them ad nauseum, but the problem is getting worse\nin today\u2019s culture of \u201cdo what makes you happy,\u201d and the false notion that the\nmore women you have, the more of a man you appear to be.  So, there is nothing else to say to them, at\nleast nothing more I can add to that particular conversation.  However, I have not lost hope in my girls. Yes,\nyou ladies.  I still believe women have\nthe wherewithal to shore up compassion for one another, and that\u2019s where loyalty\nis key.  As women read the chapters in my\nupcoming book that detail what a real-life wife was dealing with at home in the\nmidst of her husband\u2019s illicit affair, it will shed some much needed light for\nthose \u201cother women\u201d who are CHOOSING to listen to the husband\u2019s lie to them with\nsorry attempts to gain sympathy with justifications for stepping out like: \u201cmy wife\nisn\u2019t doing what she\u2019s supposed to be doing,\u201d or \u201cshe doesn\u2019t understand me,\u201d\nor \u201cwe no longer have sex.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cSisters, I\u2019m just a girl, standing in front of another girl, asking her\nto protect me.  The question should no\nlonger be, why are men cheating.  The\nbetter question is, why are we allowing them to use us in their destructive\nbehavior of cheating?<\/em> Moreover, the women who do get involved with\nmarried men only make it easier for them to do what they do.  W<\/em>e have to look out for one\nanother.  We have made adultery into a\ncomplicated, and convoluted thing when in fact it is really rather simple.  Avoiding adulterous relationships boils down\nto two simple letters in the English alphabet\u2026N-O!\u201d  <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

As always, I welcome any respectful feedback, and\ncomments.  Tell me, do you think loyalty\nbetween women is an important factor in repairing the woman to woman dynamic?  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019ve enjoyed what you\u2019ve read here, or in any of\nmy other posts, please subscribe to this once-a-week blog.  Thank you for your support.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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