Asking \u201cwhat are\/were you thinking?\u201d when getting inside the\nhead of the other woman seems trivial, and a bit simplistic to ask. Why? \nBecause a woman knowingly getting involved with another\u2019s woman\u2019s\nhusband, to most of us, is clearly NOT thinking. However, in some of the letters I have\nreceived from mistresses for publication in my upcoming book, that is not\naltogether true. Unfortunately, some of\nthem did give considerable thought to what they were doing, and despite the\npossible consequences, they chose to do it anyway. Getting inside the head of the other woman\nonly takes for an unselfish person to try and think, and act, like a selfish\nperson. Cast aside the feelings of\neveryone else, and put what you want at the forefront of everything and\neveryone else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
One letter I read spoke of a woman who was miserable in her\nown marriage, and envied the marriage of a couple she had gotten to spend time\nwith at her husband\u2019s company functions. \nShe noticed how the woman\u2019s husband would shoot her loving looks when he\nwasn\u2019t standing right next to her; she noticed how he always had his arm around\nthe small of her back anytime he stood near her. In her mind, in her fantasy, he was the\nperfect husband. Another letter tells of\na woman who knew the man was married, but felt that since he had pursued her,\nthat somehow justified getting involved with him. In her mind, since he was unhappy, and on the\nhunt, if it wasn\u2019t her, it was going to be another woman, and he was a catch, so\nwhy not her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
See, getting inside the head of the other woman is not as\ncomplicated as some make it seem. We can\nsee what is in their mind even in the fictional world of television, and\nfilm. We see the mistresses as\nbeautifully seductive forces to be reckoned with, while often time the wives\nare portrayed as a library-like \u201cPlain Janes.\u201d \nMistresses can see themselves as the answer to a bored husband\u2019s\nprayers. They come off as somewhat cold\nand emotionless, simply using their broad sexual repertoire to fulfill every desire\nof the betrothed. The problem with that\nis, humans, with the exceptions of sociopaths, cannot completely shut down\ntheir feelings. So when getting inside\nthe head of the other woman, we have to wonder what happened to her that she\nnot only sees herself as something only good for a romp in the sack, but more\nimportantly, why she does not believe she deserves better than being what is\nknown today as a \u201cside chic.\u201d In many of\nthe letters I have received, there is definitely a sense that some of these women\nare choosing these adulterous relationships so as to keep a real, meaningful connection\nat bay. They see the taken husband as a\nman that will not expect more from them than they are willing to give,\nemotionally and mentally anyway. Not\nthat the woeful tale of their own personal heartaches makes for a justifiable\nreason for contributing to the heartache of yet another woman, however, if\ngetting inside the head of the other woman is the goal, then we have to be open\nto listening and discerning what is going on with them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Women have a unique bond simply because we are women. We have the unique ability to have full-on catharsis\nwhen it comes to how another woman may be feeling about one thing or\nanother. We will cry with a stranger if\nwe are privy to what has broken her spirit. \nWe seek to comfort one another because we know that our sister can pull\nstrength from our embrace. We know what\nthe other one is thinking with just a certain look in the eye. So, getting inside the head of the other\nwoman is not difficult, because even if we would never be \u201cthe other woman,\u201d we\ncan still comprehend deficiencies in her life that might lead her to a wayward\naffair. However, as women, what we\nCANNOT comprehend is the wanton disregard for the pain she is consciously causing\nanother woman, that same woman who might have extended her hand of friendship\nif needed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We can do better by one another ladies.\u00a0 Instead of getting inside the head of the other woman, may those women who seek after the spouse of another remember that the woman you betray today, may be the sister you need tomorrow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Asking \u201cwhat are\/were you thinking?\u201d when getting inside the head of the other woman seems trivial, and a bit simplistic to ask. Why? Because a woman knowingly getting involved with another\u2019s woman\u2019s husband, to most of us, is clearly NOT thinking. However, in some of the letters I have received from mistresses for publication in […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":361,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[6,11,16,42,49,73,79,84,96,104,131,152,165,167,171],"class_list":["post-360","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-adultery","tag-author","tag-betrayal","tag-divorce","tag-fantasy","tag-happy","tag-husband","tag-infidelity","tag-marriage","tag-mistress","tag-relationships","tag-television","tag-wife","tag-women","tag-writer"],"featured_image_src":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/womansmind.jpg","featured_image_src_square":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/womansmind.jpg","author_info":{"display_name":"LeTisha Jackson","author_link":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/?author=3"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/360","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=360"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/360\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/361"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=360"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=360"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=360"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}