{"id":286,"date":"2019-05-19T19:22:51","date_gmt":"2019-05-19T19:22:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/?p=286"},"modified":"2019-05-19T19:22:51","modified_gmt":"2019-05-19T19:22:51","slug":"book-excerpt-letter-from-a-wife-to-a-mistress","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/?p=286","title":{"rendered":"Book Excerpt: Letter From a Wife to a Mistress"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

To Anonymous Mistress<\/em>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Where do I even begin something like this?\u00a0 What can I say that women like you haven\u2019t already heard?\u00a0 What string of words can I put together that might light within in you some semblance of regret?\u00a0 And even if you were to express regret, would that light within me any semblance of forgiveness?\u00a0 I don\u2019t think you have any idea what this betrayal feels like.\u00a0 You couldn\u2019t possibly know, because I have to believe that if you did, there would have been no way you could do this to someone else.\u00a0 Finding out the love of my life had been \u201cmaking love\u201d to another woman has been mind shattering, and a heartbreak I can barely put into words.\u00a0 I think I want to know why, but any question I ask, and actually get answered, only brings about a slew of other questions.\u00a0 Some of which I want to know the answer to, and others I admit I am not sure I want to know.\u00a0 I want to know why you?\u00a0 You\u2019re not prettier than me.\u00a0 You\u2019re not as educated as I am.\u00a0 Your teeth are stained.\u00a0 You\u2019re not in good shape.\u00a0 Your hair is greasy.\u00a0 Sure, these are just mostly physical attributes, and I know that women are more than just their outer appearance, but now that I incessantly compare myself to you, that\u2019s all I can focus on.\u00a0 What could my gorgeous, intelligent, and physically fit husband see in you and want from you that I didn\u2019t give him?\u00a0 I can only guess that it really does come down to just wanting different.\u00a0 That only makes me feel worse.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

He told you he was married, but that didn\u2019t stop you.\u00a0 And yes, I know women like you say it should have stopped him, and yes it should have, but I guess I naively expect women to not only want better for themselves, but to actually care about other women.\u00a0 That was very stupid of me.\u00a0 You clearly didn\u2019t think about me, but did you think about our children and what your affair would do to them when they found out?\u00a0 They are old enough to know what adultery is, so did you think about how what you were doing would affect their innocent hearts, and how it would change how they see people?\u00a0 They will eventually forgive their father because they love him, but this could develop in them an illogical distrust of people, and no parent wants their child to have preconceived notions, or negative feelings towards others just because of something like this.\u00a0 I know you didn\u2019t think about any of us, all you wanted was to try and take my place, and you didn\u2019t care who got hurt.\u00a0 How sad is your life that you have to try and take someone else\u2019s?\u00a0 How pathetic are you to think you could just step into my shoes and have my life?\u00a0 How did you think you would win over my children when they know you\u2019re the reason their parents are separated?\u00a0 What a dumb soulless whore you are.\u00a0 You help tear apart a family, but as long as you get what you want that\u2019s all that matters.\u00a0 Sorry, that\u2019s not how life works.\u00a0 There are consequences for your actions, and my husband calling you with me on the phone to tell you it was over, and you meant nothing, was just the beginning of your comeuppance.\u00a0 I got immense pleasure listening to you try and beg him not to leave you before he told you I was on the phone.\u00a0 He told you he wanted to fix his family, and be the kind of father his children deserved, and you heard none of that.\u00a0 All you could think to do was try and remind him of your disgusting sex together, to try and seduce him through your fake tears.\u00a0 That\u2019s why wives hate the woman in these situations, because even when you\u2019re faced with the reality of the situation, you could care less about all the other people you\u2019re hurting with your actions.\u00a0 You didn\u2019t care that he wanted to fix his relationship with his children, all you cared about was getting laid.\u00a0 How disgusting of a human being are you?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019re worthless in my eyes, and not because you slept with my husband, but because not even innocent children mean anything to you.\u00a0 I loved being able to tell you to stay the hell away from my husband, and only get utter silence from you when you realized you\u2019d lost.\u00a0 Well that\u2019s what happens to losers\u2026they lose!\u00a0 I hope this teaches you a huge lesson.\u00a0 Married couples are not just boyfriend and girlfriend, we don\u2019t just \u201cbreak up.\u201d\u00a0 We made vows that included \u201cfor better or for worse,\u201d and you certainly are the worse.\u00a0 More often than not, if the wife can find a way to forgive her cheating husband, women like you will be dumped and treated like nothing.\u00a0 Maybe you\u2019ll think about that before you go after another woman\u2019s man. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I wish I was a big enough person to say I hope you never experience the devastating pain you put on me, but I\u2019m not.\u00a0 I hope you do get a man who is your everything, and then another woman gives you no thought and beds him, and leaves you curled up in the fetal position crying your eyes out, trying to figure out how many pills you can take, and how much alcohol you can drink to stop the pain for just a moment.\u00a0 Yes, that\u2019s what you did to me.\u00a0 I\u2019m not proud of it, but I want you to know what you and my husband put me through.\u00a0 I could barely function.\u00a0 I couldn\u2019t be the mother my children deserved.\u00a0 I couldn\u2019t be the daughter.\u00a0 I couldn\u2019t the friend. \u00a0I was nothing of my former self.\u00a0 I disappeared inside myself because all I thought I knew was a lie.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You know what, I\u2019m going to stop here because as much as I want you to know how badly I was hurt, I don\u2019t want to give you any satisfaction in thinking you destroyed me.\u00a0 Yes, your actions hurt me deeply, but I have risen, and I am healing right along with my family\u2026MY family.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I got the notice from this Author about this whole thing, I didn\u2019t quite understand what good it could do, but now I understand more of what she is trying to do.\u00a0 While I feel nothing but hatred for you right now, women do need to have this conversation.\u00a0 Women like you need to know the harm you are contributing to when you go after another woman\u2019s husband.\u00a0 I don\u2019t know what wives could possibly learn from the mistresses, I guess we\u2019ll have to see when the book comes out.\u00a0 Anyway, I do feel much better having put my feelings into this letter.\u00a0 Maybe you\u2019ll realize this letter was written to you, maybe you won\u2019t.\u00a0 I feel a weight lifted because I\u2019ve been given a forum to express my feelings for women like you.\u00a0 Maybe I\u2019ll be able to forgive you one day, or at least, not hate you.\u00a0 I\u2019ll have to get there not for you, but for myself.\u00a0 Don\u2019t do this to anyone else.\u00a0 No one deserves to have this put on them, especially children.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

From Anonymous Wife<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Another real-life letter from a wife who wanted to have her voice heard, and her feelings expressed. All of us can sense her pain, and understandable anger, especially with regards to how these types of situations affects innocent children. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A few of the letters, from both the wives and the mistresses, make statements about not at first understanding my goal in having these 2 groups of women write these letters, but after writing, they do. My goal for writing this book has always been about healing, and unfiltered truth. I believe women have a deep, cathartic connection simply because we are women, and with that, we should have a sense of loyalty to one another that rises above selfish desires, which is what adultery is…a selfish desire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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To Anonymous Mistress: Where do I even begin something like this?\u00a0 What can I say that women like you haven\u2019t already heard?\u00a0 What string of words can I put together that might light within in you some semblance of regret?\u00a0 And even if you were to express regret, would that light within me any semblance […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":287,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[6,16,28,32,42,48,79,84,89,104,110,112,131,132,165],"class_list":["post-286","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-adultery","tag-betrayal","tag-children","tag-communication","tag-divorce","tag-family","tag-husband","tag-infidelity","tag-kids","tag-mistress","tag-new-author","tag-new-writers","tag-relationships","tag-religion","tag-wife"],"featured_image_src":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/wifebetrayed-600x400.jpg","featured_image_src_square":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/wifebetrayed-600x600.jpg","author_info":{"display_name":"LeTisha Jackson","author_link":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/?author=3"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/286","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=286"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/286\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/287"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=286"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=286"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/letishajackson.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=286"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}